Taking a Chance, Ditching the Fear, and Finding Your Soulful Tribe

Ever had that “should I or shouldn't I?” moment before spilling your personal stories in a group? Let's talk about why it's okay to take a chance and find your tribe that's got your back, no matter what. 💖

In this post, I’m going to share with you why people often don’t feel safe sharing personal information with groups, what to do about it, and why finding a group where you feel safe sharing matters. 💪

In my experience, people looking for connections with like-minded womxn sometimes shy away from joining groups because they’re not sure if they’re comfortable sharing their personal information in that type of setting.

I get it! It takes a lot to trust even one person enough to share your thoughts and feelings in an authentic and genuine way. 

And, in many cases, this is a valid concern! Not everyone is out to help others, and some people do use personal information in pretty harmful ways. Caution isn’t a bad thing! It helps keep you safe.

But…

Sometimes, you need to take a tiny step 👣 towards letting your guard down to find the connections you’re looking for. It’s sometimes the only way to meet the people who will support you in leveling up your life, finding your purpose, and being a force for positive change.

The good news is that the right groups will allow you to open up at your own pace. If you’re in a group where you feel pressured to share personal information about your life before you’re ready to do so, it’s okay to leave and look for another group. In fact, it might be the best thing you can do!

When you find a group where you’re allowed to open up at your own pace, that’s where the real magic happens! ✨ 

If you know anyone who’s ever been in AA or similar groups, you’ll know exactly what I mean. Groups like that encourage sharing, but they never force it. The people who do share - when they’re ready - get non-judgemental support. Those who get clean often credit the support they receive in meetings and lean on fellow members during difficult times because they know they can trust the group.

That dynamic of non-judgemental, no pressure support works in all group situations - not just the ones focused on recovery. They’re vital components to building trust in any group situation.

In my group - The Soulful Sisterhood - we emphasize respect for others, so you’ll never feel pressured to share anything you’re not ready to share. At the same time, we work hard to create a safe, welcoming environment so that you will feel safe to share with the group without judgment. 🤗

We understand that trust needs to be earned, and we don’t expect you to let us into your inner world the first day you arrive - or even the second or third. You set the pace for what you share, when, how, and with whom. 

Unlike many other personal or spiritual growth groups out there, we don’t believe in “high vibes only.” That’s an unfair and unrealistic expectation. We believe in getting really real because we know that life is messy, scary, and hard sometimes. Life can also be joyful and fun, and we want to hear about those moments, too - if you want to share.

We also know that those hard moments in life are part of the growth process and with the right support, you’ll come through the other side with a deeper understanding of yourself, your passions, your purpose, and the ways you can show up to serve and make a difference in the world. 💚

The Soulful Sisterhood was designed to be collaborative, so we’re always asking for your input on what you’d like to do at each monthly virtual gathering, and we’re always open to suggestions for other ways to connect with each other. Because this group is YOURS. It’s meant to help you - and only you know what you need the most.

That focus on what the group actually wants rather than what I as the leader think you want also helps create an environment where you can feel safe to open up and share with us.

You may be wondering, can I just come to the monthly meetings and not share anything, ever? The short answer is: of course you can! ❤️

Sometimes, hearing other people talk about what’s going on with them can be even more helpful than talking about your own life. You can learn from what they say and feel supported because they’re going through something similar to you.

At the same time, though, I encourage all Sisters to be open to the idea of participating in a more active way. There’s absolutely no requirement to do so, but we’d also love to hear from you and hold space for you when you’re ready.

Now that you understand how to find groups where you’ll feel comfortable sharing your personal information, don’t let fear of being pressured into telling more than you’re ready to tell hold you back from finding the soulful connections you need to help you level up your life.

Look for groups that focus on creating supportive, safe environments and will allow you to be an observer for as long as you want. If you’re in a group now where you feel pressured to share more than you’re comfortable sharing, it might be time to move on and find a group that will embrace you opening up at your own speed.

I encourage you to start today by checking out The Soulful Sisterhood! There, you’ll find a group of womxn who share your passion 🔥 for creating positive change, your frustrations with not feeling safe or heard in other groups, and an environment that’s specifically designed to help all Sisters feel safe and secure. We’re all looking forward to welcoming another beautiful soul to our tribe!